No Humor | FT 28/07/2011
Our local dailies Fiji Times Newspaper has a section called the Letters to the editor and i have develeoped a sudden interest in voicing my opinion here. On 13th July 2011, Mr. Aisake Delai wrote in to the letters saying:
CANT UNDERSTAND.
Fifteen year old boys are strong, healthy and fit and they should be able to defend themselves against any kind of attacks by 70 year old's.Unless the 15 year old boy who accused his 70 year old father of raping him (FT 8/7) is a cripple or mentally retarded. I cannot understand why he could not defend himself against his 70 year old father.Well, there you go coach, Samu Domoni. In case you run out of firepower and energy in the forward pack, why not take in 70 year old's?
Aisake Dekai | Nasinu.
Upon reading this letter i couldn't help but feel a rush of anger inside my head. How can you suggest a sports team to take on an elderly member of the society who has just been accused of RAPE!!! In the course of my studies i have learnt of a theory called "Fight, Flight or Freeze" - basically when a threatening situation presents itself to us we either: Fight the situation, Flight (run away) from the situation or Freeze (whereby our brain shuts down and we are unable to do anything). For people to consider such sensitive matters (like rape/abuse) as humorous is very pathetic (to be honest). Here we are trying our level best to ensure our children are protected from sexual perpetrators and than we have people like Mr. Delai who consider it a joke. The thought was still jumping around in my head and so i decided to post a simple reply to his not so humorous letter.Please find below my reply:
No Humuor.
What I fail to comprehend is the thinking and reasoning competence displayed by Mr. Delai (FT 13/11) in his letter about a 15 year old boy being raped by his 70 year old father..Did it occur to Mr. Delai that the fifteen year old boy might have threatened?Or that he might be a frail, petite boy who is weak (health wise)?Or he simply went through a freeze mode (refer to fight, flight or freeze theory by Walter Bradford Cannon).I doubt any coach in his or even her right mind would not want a perverted, immoral, disrespectful person on his or her team.I suggest for Mr. Delai to think twice before dishing such suggestions.
What I fail to comprehend is the thinking and reasoning competence displayed by Mr. Delai (FT 13/11) in his letter about a 15 year old boy being raped by his 70 year old father..Did it occur to Mr. Delai that the fifteen year old boy might have threatened?Or that he might be a frail, petite boy who is weak (health wise)?Or he simply went through a freeze mode (refer to fight, flight or freeze theory by Walter Bradford Cannon).I doubt any coach in his or even her right mind would not want a perverted, immoral, disrespectful person on his or her team.I suggest for Mr. Delai to think twice before dishing such suggestions.
Alzima Elisha Bano
Nabua.
It is very important for all of us to make a stand against CHILD ABUSE - we NEED to protect our future and create a safe, loving and caring environment for them.
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